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NLP Now! Newsletter |
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Letter from the
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Dear NLP Now! Subscribers,
I know some of you may have been wondering where
the devil has NLP Coaching School's NLP Now! been.
Well Malaysia, Italy, the UK, Brisbane, Melbourne,
Sydney and Canberra to be exact! We've had a really
busy training schedule and a holiday which has meant
NLP Now! took a wee break too.
But NLP Now! is back with a vengeance and should
be showing up in your inbox on a regular basis from
now on.
Topics For This Edition
The next edition of NLP Now! won't be far behind
this one so until then, happy NLPing!
Kind regards,
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Master
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A big congratulations to all of our Master
Practitioner students who successfully
completed Week 1 of their NLP Master Prac training.
Everyone of the group successfully had a personal
'breakthrough' by breaking their boards. Awesome job
guys. Week 2 is in November and we'll cover Master
Prac Time Line Therapy, Master Prac Hypnotherapy and
each student will complete a full personal
breakthrough (no board this time!) session with another student. See you
all in November.
Master Practitioner students, Sydney, August 2007
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15 Tips for
Successful Relationships - Susan Quinn |
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Without quality time, your relationship will not
survive. Carve out at least half an hour a
night, and at least one day a month when you the
two of you spend time exclusively together.
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You will both need security and comfort. A good
relationship is built on compromise and a great
deal of give and take on both sides.
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Keep your dependence and independence in
balance. Tell and show your partner how much you
need him/her, but don't cling, as that can make
your partner feel trapped.
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Encourage him/her to listen to you, by showing
appreciation when s/he does. By the same token,
show interest when s/he talks to you.
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Learn
to do the one thing that is most likely to
restore good feeling in your relationship -
giving your partner a genuine, loving and
approving smile for example.
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Money is the number one cause of couple
conflict. For a relationship to work, you need
to address your finances and work out a budget.
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If the domestic work is not divided fairly
between you, it will cause friction in your
relationship. Make a list of the domestic tasks,
talk it through with your partner and mobilise
the whole family, your partner included, to
share the work.
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If you have children, involve your partner as
much as possible with the childcare - even if
you feel they are not as good as it at you are.
It's important to present a united front to your
children.
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Sort out your sex life. The sex may ebb and flow
over the years, but if sex starts going
downhill, don't just accept it. As soon as you
notice a slide, question why and then work at
bringing the passion back.
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Don't assume you won't be tempted to have an
affair as almost everyone is. You need to learn
to resist. If you do stray, don't feel it spells
the end of your relationship. Most couples
recover, particularly from a one-night-stand,
and often find that discovering the cause of the
affair helps them to get even closer. So, you
need to learn to resist. But don't think that an
affair is the end of everything.
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Learn how to argue well. The trick is to never
say anything that you wouldn't want to hear said
to you.
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Learn how to negotiate. Each of you states what
you want, then both of you work together to find
a way forward.
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Learn to forgive. If you know you will never
forgive your partner over something important,
then give him or her - a break and start again,
with someone else.
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Know when to leave. If your life aims are
incompatible, there are drugs or violence
around, or if there is consistently more pain
than pleasure, then walk before the relationship
destroys you.
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Don't think that going to
therapy equals
failure. It can turn a bad relationship around.
It can turn an average relationship into a
brilliant one.
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Milton Model v's Meta Model - By NLP
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Vagueness has it’s place in therapy and coaching, it
can be very useful in persuasion and short length
communication, but to really understand where a
person comes from, you need the Meta-Model. The
Meta-Model is the therapeutic language model of
Bandler/Grinder, derived from the works of great
therapists in particular Virginia Satir. The
Meta-Model patterns are not used only in therapy,
but also for helping other people reach clarity
using “normal” speech.
You need to understand the deep structure of your
client’s problems so that you won’t be judging a
person superficially, i.e. at a surface level or on
a simple
structure.
Milton-Model - one of the most mind-bending language
models in NLP. This set of language patterns is
taken directly from Milton H. Erickson, the great
hypnotherapist.
This discussion is on the differences, pro’s and
con’s, advantages / disadvantages, useful in context
(and which ones), of… Milton Model Vs. The Meta
Model.
It has been claimed that people can be divided into
those that are Meta-Modellers and those that are
Milton-Modellers, and that the last group are the
“few” who get picked on by the first group who are
the “most people”.
That got me to ask the question: ehhh??? So if I’m
using the meta-model, am I not allowed to use in the
same conversation/context, the Milton-Model?
If I’m using the Meta-Model to
investigate/clarify/make realistic a statement from
someone else, does it mean I’m nitpicking?
I
like vagueness, I think it’s very useful in
persuasion and short length communication, but to
really understand where a person comes from, you
need the Meta-Model. You need to understand the deep
structure so that you won’t be judging a person
superficially (i.e. surface or simple structure).
And personally, I don’t see a division between
people in this set of skills. We all need to master
them both, if we want to communicate well. yes, some
people prefer to stick to vagueness and claim others
should make the effort to absorb their “style”, but
these people tend to forget that vagueness is good
for influencing others to change their behaviour or
opinions… not when they are trying to find out what
is exactly yours to begin with.
And yes, some people tend to Meta-Model way too
much, as if out of reflex especially when not
willing to be convinced without grasping the deep
structure of it all. So excessive meta-modeling can
/ does irritate others, but without it we would all
live in superficial worlds with superficial emotions
and endless repressed anger and frustration.
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Remaining Dates
for 2007 |
| City |
Level |
Start Date |
End Date |
| Melbourne |
Practitioner |
Tues 18 Sept |
Mon 24 Sept |
| Brisbane |
Practitioner |
Sat 13 Oct |
Fri 19 Oct |
| Sydney |
Practitioner |
Fri 9 Nov |
Thur 15 Nov |
| Sydney |
Hypnotherapy Weekend |
Sat 17 Nov |
Sun 18 Nov |
| Sydney |
Master Prac Week 2
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Tue 20 Nov |
Sun 25 Nov |
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If you are still considering whether now
is the right time for you to take your NLP
training and you are in Melbourne or Brisbane
please be aware that next year there will be no
Melbourne or Brisbane dates. There may
be incentives for interstate/international
travellers.. however if there was a time to take
the leap... the time is now... get in quick to one
of the last 3 public trainings for 2007.
Email
info@nlpschool.com.au with any questions, or
book and pay online at
www.nlpschool.com.au/enrol.html.
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Dates for
2008 |
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We are very very close to finalising our dates for
2008. Apologies for the wait. We are aiming to have
our dates ready for next year by the end of
September so keep an eye on your inbox over the next
few weeks.
Here's a photo of the most recent Practitioner
training in Sydney.. what a ball we had! Hear what
some of our recent students have had to say about
the trainings...
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Students from Sydney NLP
Practitioner training Aug 2007
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Testimonials |
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"Thanks again for a great course last week. –
absolutely life changing – all my friends said they would pay triple what I
paid to get the same changes in themselves. So
many opportunities ahead." - Trevor Glass |
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"I was sceptical about what I
would learn and how useful it would be. Amazing how
wrong assumptions can be. I was looking for a way to
get my life back on track and be all I could be and
more. If I could give one piece of advise to my son
(14 months). When he is older, it will be learning
NLP. Thank you Sean and Anna, forever in your debt"
- Christian Lucy
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"It changed my life" - Jason
Smith
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"Great experience, you will
enjoy every moment. Sean and Anna are great trainers
who impart knowledge with ease that makes learning
NLP an absolute enjoyable experience." - Chris West
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"For me it has been a life
changing experience. Every bit of it is loaded and
so useful." - Pragati Gandhi |
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"If you want to .... you can!
Anna & Sean can show you the way!!" - Shane Halton |
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Testimonials |
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"Thanks again for a great course last
week. – absolutely life changing – all my friends
said they would pay triple what I paid to get the
same changes in themselves. So many opportunities
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Trevor
Glass - Bris Aug |
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“I
loved every minute of it. I found it full of great information and
fantastic tools... Sean
and Anna are awesome NLP teachers and I would recommend this course to
anyone...”
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Janice Needham - Syd Jan |
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